“Boundary setting” is a phenomenon that emerged in self-help and pop culture as a relationship tool in the late 1980s. Since then, it has been a mainstay of common advice and suggestions for many relationship struggles. Yet, while it is frequently mentioned as a strategy, boundary setting can be markedly difficult to put into practice.

“Forgiveness” is a commonly used and misunderstood word. Many confuse forgiveness with (reluctant) reconciliation, condoning the transgression, or even the simple passage of time until we forget or stop caring. However, forgiveness is more intentional and restorative than moving past or justifying hurt.

Most of us possess a very strong need for relational connection, which is challenged by the repeated pains of failed and broken relationships.

Learning to notice our trauma and that of others and to de-escalate tension is imperative to moving forward in relationships of all levels.

Think for a moment about the close relationships you have in your life, or the people you like being around. How do they make you feel? How do they make you feel about yourself?